TW: suicide
I started a Masters in Astrophysics at the University of Liverpool in September 2014. I had always been an anxious child/teenager. And of course, the first few months of uni is filled with nerves, being homesick, and meeting new people; so I didn’t think anything of my anxiety. I considered it normal.
March 2015 came and nothing had changed, apart from the fact that I didn’t feel homesick. At all. It was pure anxiety – and, naturally, low mood followed.
I had sort of accepted that this is just was comes with being at uni and studying a demanding course, until I spoke to a close friend who had been struggling with depression long term. She advised that I see my GP, and that feeling this way isn’t normal – and of course, she was right. After a couple of sessions, I was prescribed with sertraline, which may or may not have had an effect; I couldn’t really feel any difference. I started counselling with uni, but I don’t really know if that helped either.
The thought of attending lectures, labs, seminars, tutorials etc scared the shit out of me; but I was so scared of failing that I attended everything anyway. So I did very well in my January exams. But it all changed by the summer; my attendance dropped significantly, I had a boyfriend that didn’t treat me very well, I couldn’t leave my dorm room (after a few incidents with flatmates that caused my anxiety to be so bad that I was throwing up), and then, a friend from school (and ex-boyfriend, though we only went out very briefly), died on a night out back at home – the day before my summer exams started.
By some sort of miracle, I passed my exams (legit getting 40% on some modules).
I started 2nd year and had left to suspend studies by December. I had put on a lot of weight due to binge eating and self-harm was the worst it had ever been, let alone severe anxiety.
I came home, worked for a year, and then tried 2nd year again.
Early December, I made my first formal suicide attempt – a staggered mirtazapine overdose, after my current boyfriend (not abusive) left after visiting for the weekend. I was taken to A&E by ambulance, referred to the community mental health team (I had seen them before but was discharged as I displayed “no symptoms”…)
The living situation was poor; it was a lovely house but one housemate in particular made things very difficult; I won’t go into details. (I’m not saying she was the trigger for the attempt but she definitely didn’t help).
By January I had withdrawn from my course, and came back to Swansea.
So, to the point of this piece… I’m enrolled on a theoretical physics course with the Open University, ready to start in September. If you’re really struggling with mental health problems being primarily caused by university, it’s not worth being there. Don’t drive yourself to the point of suicide for the sake of a degree. What the Open University can offer is independent study, from home, so makes things a lot easier if you’re in and out of hospital all of the time! It’s something to consider, if you struggle at uni, but getting a degree is important to you, and you feel you could do it with more support.
Look after yourselves ❤
(There are lots of things that I’ve missed out here but I wanted to keep this short and sweet!)